We got to meet our sweet nephew a couple of weeks ago! He was born in crazy times, just like so many 2020 babies, but we are so glad he’s here! He was a perfect 9lb. ball of cuddles, and we love him dearly!
Sometimes in the last few weeks, I have thought about all the things going on in the world, and what our children are growing up in. This year alone, kids have seen giant fires in the Amazon and Australia, a pandemic, school and economic closures, earthquakes, tornados, raised racial tensions, riots and protests… I’m sure I’m missing something, but you get the idea.
As a new mama, and aunt to some of the sweetest little souls, I’ve been a little overwhelmed. Being a leader in their lives, comes with a lot of responsibility, and the world of social media loves to add to that list. I’m “supposed” to be growing my business, improving my classroom digitally and in person, adjusting to life with a new little person, working on my health, improving my self-care roles so I can be more present as a mom, keeping my house germ free, educating my home about becoming anti-racist, and it’s been a lot to process. Mom guilt is real, guys. But, Joy D. Jones said, “Women wear many hats, but it is impossible, and unnecessary, to wear them all at once. The Spirit helps us determine which work to focus on today.”
I can’t wear all the hats at once, but I can take baby steps. Because my little girl deserves it.
Our littles deserve a world where they can grow up as emotionally, physically, and mentally healthy humans. They deserve to have parents who are healthy too. I want to be a mom who is present, and ready to teach my children the skills they are going to need to grow up and be productive adults.
Our littles deserve a world where the color of their skin doesn’t define them. A world where they can feel safe, and grow and learn without feeling judged for race, gender, profession or other outside factors.
They deserve a chance to have a childhood. I fear that so often we are pulling them into adulthood so early, putting the pressures and weight on their shoulders, because we are struggling to live up to this “adulting” thing.
They deserve a world where they can learn to hear opinions, and have discussions about ideas, without feeling ridiculed for asking questions or stating their opinion. I fear we have lost the ability to talk about hard things without name calling, anger, and resentment being a constant companion.
Our world today reflects what we saw growing up in novels and movies. Series like The Lord of the Rings or Hunger Games seemed like fantastic, far-away lands that were merely the works of the author’s imagination, meant to teach us through beautiful metaphors. But today, one scroll through Facebook mirrors what those worlds showed us. Countries torn apart by differences, intolerance, and discouragement. Leaders who were more worried about helping themselves than helping those who needed them most. Worlds desperate for brave souls to save the day.
In Harry Potter, J. K. Rowling encourages us to rise against the darkness through the wisdom of Albus Dumbledore. He said, “Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times if only one remembers to turn on the light… [for] it is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”
So let’s choose. Let’s choose to be more aware of those around us. Let’s choose to be more sensitive to the plight and struggles of our brothers and sisters. Let’s choose to make an effort to be more involved. Let’s choose to be kinder. Let’s choose to be more present. Let’s choose to be the adults that some of us really needed growing up.
Let’s choose to be healthier, happier humans. Let’s move forward together. Let’s be better.
Let’s give our littles the world they deserve.